6 things about friendship I had to learn

I first started to daydreaming to cope with how bad my peer relationships were as a kid. I idealized friendships and other relationships and imagined scenarios where I already had close friends. That, combined with my lack of actual practice becoming friends with people, meant that I missed a lot of crucial lessons about making relationships.

As I grew older, I got a little better at developing friendships, but I didn't know how to approach other people, and I was always unsure if we were really friends.

When I went to college, I turned my friendship efforts on to 100%. I introduced myself to everyone in my dorm the first week I was in there. I asked people about their majors. I leapt on the information they gave me and kept an eye out for questions I could ask to extend the conversation. Through all the practice I got during college, I learned that I had made a lot of assumptions about friendship because of the way I had idealized it.

1. that close friendship was automatic.